
This post is part of the USA versus SWE everyday Life Contest.
My stay in the US is nearing its end and it is time to wrap up the US versus SWE everyday life competition. There are many differences that, while notable, still really would not make up a whole blog post on their own. So I have decided to lump them together in one post. After sketching the list of all these "minors", I realized they added up to quite a few, so this may well be the longest post of all. So stay with me. Here we go.
Turn signal and brake lights
In Sweden (as in the rest of Europe I beleive) cars have red rear brake lights and orange turn signal lights. It is easy to immediately tell by color, even in the corner of your eye, whether the car in the next lane in front of you is braking, or wants to make a turn into your lane. In the US, many cars have both red turning and braking lights. Sometimes even combined into the same physical lamp. So turn your head and look at BOTH rear lights of the other car FOR A WHILE to determine whether it is braking or turning. Time is precious and ambiguity is bad in traffic.0 USA : SWE 1
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Being in San Diego just for a relatively short time, I don't get very much important mail in my mail box (The physical one outside the house, not e-mail). As a consequence I don't check it very often. Once in a while I get something important though, like for example my Californian driver's licence. Too bad you get a ton of junk advertisment mail. In my case it happenned to fill up my mail box the day before the driver's license was about to be delivered, so it got returned to the sender as undeliverable. I asked the mail man the if it was possible to opt out of advertisement mail. The answer I got was: "Nope sir, I will get fired if I don't deliver".I don't know if I am the only person who just takes all the advertisments and put them in the recycling bin, but I suspect not.
Unwanted advertisement is a waste of resources and time (mail man's, mine, and the recycling technician).
Here's how it works in Sweden: You put a sticker on your door or mail box saying "No ads please". That's it. The distributor has to respect that. The advertisement companies (I think) adapt the amount of ads printed based on how much ads did not get delivered in the previous dispatch.
0 USA : SWE 1
Passing on the right (but wrong) side
In Sweden, passsing on the right is only allowed if traffic in all lanes is slow, i.e. you are in the middle of a traffic jam.If you want to pass, you do it on the left, and when safe you go back to the lane on your right, in turn letting faster traffic pass you.
In California, the left lane IS the fast lane, BUT passing on the right is not explicitly prohibited. So while a lot of people stick to a sane driving style, many don't and switch back and forth between lanes in a very opportunistic, but unfortunately somewhat unpredictable and unsafe way. You can in fact get into weird situations where someone is camping in the left lane, someone wants to pass, and does so in the middle lane, yet another car wants to pass the second car and passes in the right lane. We now have the slowest car to the left, afaster car in the middle and the fastest car to the right - Reversed order. Wonderful.
0 USA : SWE 1
Where to eat?
No matter where you are or how late it is you can count on being able to find an affordable place to eat within 5 minutes from where you are. If you are in the US that is. Every community within a city will have a center, or plaza with shops and a food court full of eateries. You will find a nice mix of Japanese, Mexican, Italian, American grills, Vietnamese and many other cusines. When travelling or biking I have been saved from hunger so many times by the closest eatery of the block. In Sweden, some neighbourhoods will also have their local grill hangout, but the choice of places is so much more limited. Also, if at a US hotel, you can always trust the vending machine to be there, ready to serve you (or play a trick on you keeping both your money and your soda) 24/7.2 USA : SWE 0
Door knobs
Now we are getting to the really important stuff that will have a deep impact on your life. Door knobs. Swedish doors always have levers. Doors in USA a lot of the time have round knobs, that you don't know which way to turn and that will slip if you or the person before you had a sweaty hand, or, in case of a external door, it was raining on the knob. Aestethically pleasing? Yes, maybe. Useful? No.0 USA : SWE 1
Shower knobs and toilets
Shower knobs in the US fortunately are not round as their door counterparts are. But they generally don't allow you to regulate the amount of water that comes out, just the temperature. As a collegue of mine puts it "Those showers are made for cattle!". Sweden has had water preserving nozzles for decades, in addition to knobs that allow to adjust the amount of water flow. Ah, and as a side note, since many years it is common to have water preserving toilets that have two flush buttons. One small and one normal to choose from depending on if you did #1 or #2.I know this is changing in the US though which is a good thing. Keep it up!
0 USA : SWE 1
Greeting phrases
If you go to school in Sweden and you have a teacher in English worthy of her title, she will prepare and teach you how Americans greet each other. There are several variations:How are you?
How are you doing?
What's up?
What's going on? (I've actually been asked this by a total stranger as we randomly walked by each other, catching me completely off guard ;-).
Howdy y'all! (She may or may not know of this one depending on whether she has encountered a Southerner)
All variations can optionally be prefixed with "Hey!" or "Hey <your name>!" and optionally postfixed with "today" or "this morning" etc. Like:
"Hey Robert, how are you this morning?"
She will also let you know that the correct answer is way different from typical Swedish answers "Good", "So-so" or "Ok" or anything else like that. If you answer like that or just hesitate for a split second with your answer, Americans will consider you either rude or simply mentally challenged. The correct answer is one of:
"[Good/Great/Excellent] How are you [doing]?"
"What's up"
For all you americans out there, which at this point are totally perplexed and wonder how in the world people would ever greet otherwise, here's the short summary of how Swedes greet:
Person A: "Hej" (Hi)
Person B: "Hej" (Hi)
Done. Ok, I admit there is another common variant which is slightly more verbose, and which to the fullest shows the expressiveness of Swedish greeting phrases:
Person A: "Läget?" (Situation?)
Person B: "Bra. Själv?" (Good, you?)
Person A: "Ok" (Ok)
As you see, Swedes are not only less talkative but also slightly melancholic. This is actually a trait that is more often attributed to our dear neighbors to the east, the Finnish. Beleive it or not, they are known for using even fewer (but longer) words!
Swedes will actually find the American way of greeting as somewhat superficial or even false, especially since anything but a glorious "Excellent" response is not even an option. Personally, after getting used to it, I find it fun and actually a good way to start up almost any conversation. Amazing what a difference few extra words can make! :)
2 USA : SWE 0
Wrapping up
As much as Swedes like to make fun of the US and Americans (I mean just look at my posts in this blog), we at the same time are in awe. What Swede does not want to visit the US sometime or try his or her luck in Silicon Valley or LA or NY for that matter? Sweden IS the 51:st state, probably airing more US TV shows, dramas and movies than any other nation in the world. Always undubbed of course. Swedes are huge consumers and fans of US culture, sometimes without realizing. You Americans might even consider annexing Sweden as a US territory. Trust me, it will be easy. Resistance will be scarce. :)Despite all the score I have handed out to the two contending nations in the past posts, I would say the difference between living in the US and Sweden is not that big in terms of the mindset of people. Maybe not surprizing for two modern and industrialized countries which even share a common history of migration.
Anyway, it is time for what you all have been waiting for: To find out the final score!
| Topic | USA | SWE |
| Power plugs | 1 | 0 |
| Trash bags | 2 | 1 |
| Money money money | 0 | 2 |
| Bike Roads | 1 | 3 |
| Turn signal and brake lights | 0 | 1 |
| Natural Scenery | 5 | 2 |
| Advertisment opt out | 0 | 1 |
| Passing on the right hand side | 0 | 1 |
| Where to eat? | 2 | 0 |
| Door knobs | 0 | 1 |
| Shower knobs and toilets | 0 | 1 |
| Greeting phrases | 2 | 0 |
What??? It is a draw! 13 - 13. I am not joking when I say I am surprised. When I started this series of posts almost six months ago I had decided to be very open minded, but I still somehow believed Sweden would be the clear winner. What can I say... Both places apparently have their respective merits and drawbacks.
In any case, if you are an American who has never been to Sweden, the only way for you to know how right I am ;-), is to come over to visit the 51:st state and find out for yourself. And reversed, if you are a Swede who has never been in the US, but think you know all about it, I suggest you make a trip overseas and try to leave your prejudices at home.
Thank you all for following this series of posts. Hope you had as much fun reading as I had writing. Regardless of which side you have cheered for, I can only wish that you, just as me, had your habits and ideas challenged at some point.
Now, all there is left for me, is to say is goodbye America and many thanks for this time. I have met so many nice and friendly people and really enjoyed my stay. I just hope to be back sometime soon!
/Robert
San Diego, May 14 2009







